I just want to say a massive thank you to Grumpy Mum Review for tagging me to take part in the Rocking Motherhood tag. Please head over to her site to read about how she’s #Rocking Motherhood.
Motherhood, I always feel is such a personal experience. Mothers can share certain similarities in their stories about motherhood, but can never share the same experience.
I am a mother to two gorgeous babies. My little (big girl) T, who is 4 years old going on 21, and my baby boy (little) T who is 15 months, and well, going on 16 months.
My kids have always been different and my experience with both has been completely and utterly different.
Motherhood for me, in a nutshell, has been a steep learning curve. Some days are better than others. I have experienced some things that I would rather forget. It’s not easy, but I know once a mother, always a mother.
The best way to deal with it is to embrace all the good and then bad.
So, I’ll take this opportunity to ruffle my feathers, puff my chest out and shout out 10 reasons why I’m Rocking motherhood:
1. AS A PARENT, I MAKE SACRIFICES AND STAY PATIENT
From the day I found out I was pregnant, I started making changes to my life. I started doing certain things either differently or eliminating them altogether. I realised it was time to make selfless sacrifices for the good of another person. A person that was part of me but none the less an individual.
When my daughter was born, the biggest sacrifice I made, like many other mothers was sleep! yes, my number one love had to take a back seat! Leisure, fun and dignity were next to go. In that order.
Next was my career. I felt that to provide the best care for my babies, I had to sacrifice a good career.
Not because I didn’t want to work, but because the demands of the job would have meant me missing out on my children’s life – and that was not an option. Why did I make all those sacrifices? Because I was ready to Rock at Motherhood!
2. I EDUCATE MY CHILDREN ON LIFE LESSONS
I teach my children right from wrong every day. Teach them how to love and care for others. Yes, they are still young, but they say that children’s minds are like a sponge, they soak up so much information. And trust me they do!
I’ve not left education in the hands of the government or made it the responsibility of the teachers at school. No, I have taken it upon myself to teach my children how to read and write.
At the age of 3, my daughter was able to read me bedtime stories. Now she’s 4, she reads her bedtime stories to her brother and me.
I see her reading out words from the T.V, Magazines and signs on the street. She does so with such enthusiasm and pride. It gives her the freedom to find information independently and she loves it!
I look at her and my heart smiles – Yes. I’m Rocking motherhood!
3. I MAKE SURE MY CHILDREN ARE PROVIDED FOR
Ok, so with one, I’ll respect Hubby and give him credit too.
However, I want my children to have nice things in life. I don’t want to see them lacking anything.
So I work 12-hour shifts to make sure they are well clothed and they have toys, books and nice clothes.
Not to spoil them, no, but it eliminates jealousy and envy of friends. Especially at school.
Many people say those kinds of things don’t matter, but in this day and age, they do. I’m a firm believer that if you try your best to treat your children and teach them to appreciate those treats when they’re older, they will not wander off looking for ‘treats’ in the wrong places from the wrong people.
I also make sure they never go a day without food. If I have to starve to feed my kids, then I will do so quite happily with a smile on my face.
4. I PROTECT MY CHILDREN AT ALL COST
I always, always protect my children at all costs. It’s my duty to make them feel safe. Emotionally, mentally and physically. It’s my duty to teach my children about ‘stranger danger’ caution.
It’s my job to make sure they are always happy. Their innocence is protected by filtering what they watch on Television, What they hear in the media or from people and of course, where they play.
Call me a control freak, but if making sure my child remains pure for as long as a possible, then I’ll be a control freak. I’m willing to wear that title on my forehead if you let me protect my children – why? Because I want what’s best for my children and I’m Rocking Motherhood.
5. I CARE ABOUT THEIR HEALTH ADN WELLBEING
They say there nothing like instincts of a mother. I make sure I listen to my children’s bodies and react when my instincts say something is not right.
My main worry as a new mother was not being able to identify what was wrong with my baby should they get sick. I was so scared that there was no way I would be able to help them. Babies won’t talk and I’m no psychic.
I was amazed at how I could tell a room full of grown women exactly what my babies needs were. Or where she was hurting just through her actions and cries. That was her way of communicating. To this day, I can instantly tell if either my children are not well.
I will always be that mother who argues with the medical profession if my gut instincts tell me he’s not listening. Why? Because I’m Rocking motherhood!
6. I AM JACK OF ALL TRADES – SERIOUSLY!
To my children, I’m not just Mummy. No. I’m a Doctor, a night nurse, a teacher, cleaner and chef (who has to cater to the ever-changing pallets). I am Bad Cop, Good Cop, the judge, the jury, the prosecutor and the preacher! A certified referee, an Advocate and Mediator.
I am a cuddles and kisses factory and need to be open 24/7. I am a best friend and worst enemy. I’m the party starter, the Joker and entertainer. But I’m also the party pooper!
At times I have to change from one hat to the next in a matter of seconds. If there are any skills that I lack, it’s my duty to learn and perfect them in a matter of days! (I’m currently learning costume making).
So you see, to my children I’m not just a mother, I am the Superhero who knows it all – Why? Because I own it and Rock Motherhood!
7. I MAKE MY CHILDREN’S PASSION, MY PASSION!
Let’s put it simply, My children’s passion is my passion. Peppa Pig is now my passion. Football (which my little girl absolutely loves) is now my passion.
Playing the game of Hide and Seek endlessly, scraping off playdough amongst other things off the carpet is now my passion. My children’s passion will always be my passion.
I always take an interest in what matters to them, even when I have no interest in the matter. If it’s not right in my eyes, I will try to see things through their eyes and understand.
8. COMMITMENT, COMMITMENT, COMMITMENT!
Every morning I wake up. Not because I am an early bird or because I hate wasting my day away in bed – Oh no. I wake up because my children are up at the crack of dawn. My daughter is usually standing by my bedside patiently waiting for me to open one eye.
I force myself out of my comfortable, soft warm bed and start getting my daughter ready for Nursery.
I have to get her there by 8.30 am. This means waking, feeding, washing and dressing two children as well as myself and out of the house by 8.15 am. I then return to pick her up at 11.30 am. by the time we get home, lunch is made and afternoon activities are set.
After lunch, I get them to nap. Once awake, I play games with them or we read or watch a movie together. This all before dinner and bedtime washes are to be done.
By the time they go to sleep I’m exhausted. Sometimes I do this after a 12 hour night shift.
I lay down on my bed after a long day and think of all the commitments I’ve had to make for my children. Close my eyes and through my tired mind prepare to make them all again the next day – why because I’m Rocking Motherhood!
9. I LOVE MY CHILDREN WHOLEHEARTEDLY
To hear your child say ‘I love you, mummy, you’re my best friend’ is payment enough to keep doing the things I do for my children!
my son doesn’t yet talk, but the way he cries for me when I walk out of the door to go to work and the way he runs to me with smiles when he sees me the next day brings such joy to my heart.
Words can never explain the feeling that comes over me when I hug my children. My world is empty when I’m away from them. These are the times I realise how much I love them.They show me what love is. They make me want to be a mother every day!
They show me what love is. They make me love being a mother every day!
10. I CARE FOR ME!
I learned to make sure I look presentable when taking my daughter to nursery.
I put lipstick and heel on and walk tall when I go out with my children. Brace my tired face with a smile. Walk hand in hand with my children and smile. I make the effort to look good as a woman, as a mother! Not because I’m pretending, but because I know there so many people who are expectant mothers or new mothers who are finding it hard to find their mothering feet. We’ve all been there. But I want to be a walking example that they too, can ROCK MOTHERHOOD!
You never know who’s watching and your actions may inspire someone!
As a mother, don’t ever feel as though you’re inadequate or failing in any way, shape or form. But if you do, take a pen and paper, write down 10 reasons why you think you’re rocking motherhood.
You will be surprised at how difficult it will be to stop at 10. You rock more than you think you do!
I would like to know how you mamas out there are #Rocking Motherhood. Share your #rocking motherhood moments?
I TAG @Muumlife from Navigating Motherhood to join in the fun.